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Well, first off, this is NOT SEPH


Um... I don't really know what's going on, I bet I'm just overreacting, but there's this girl that I really really like and I've told her how much I like her and I tell her how pretty she is all the time.... (only problem is that she already has a boyfriend, lol... complicates things...)... and yesterday she basically told me to "stop loving her"


But it seemed more like she didn't like ME doing it, like it creeped her out that a nerd such as me could feel such compassion for one of such beauty... like she didn't like me. So I was crushed. I was amongst tears and fits of rage within myself for ever being so openly honest with someone who doesn't care... but all she said was . I'm now angry at both myself and her, and I went from having quite possibly the best day in a long time to having the worst day, and it didn't even seem to her that she'd done anything. It hurts... Especially the way she tried to pin it on herself, saying that "You deserve better" ... and such... it made me so mad... why didn't she just come out and say it? Why couldn't she make it simple? This is what I get for being 'bold' enough to reveal my feelings to someone, especially if they are ignorant enough to just stand idle and take it. Now I don't know what to do, I want to freak out and tell her off, tell her that when she's done smashing my heart all over the ground there's a trashcan in the corner, so just clean it up, please...... but I'm too nice to people... I could never say that to anyone...


She's right though. I have to move on. There's been too many times I've gotten bouts of crazy depression on her behalf, and it's just not worth it. I'm 16....but somehow I think that this will plauge me for the rest of my life.... what do you guys think?

What do I think? You can either be a dick and stalk her or get a life and realize there's about 3 billion of those things floating around the planet. What you can't do is wallow in self pity or I'll come over there myself and kick your ass personally with a steel toed boot.

Next time you ask a girl out, aviod a dramatic confession of love. You live with your parents, you aren't exactly going to escape the Montegue house and become star-crossed lovers, that sort of talk is actually kind of creepy in real life. If you said that to me, I'd be worried that you're going to stab me and hold tea parties with my corpse before wearing my head like a hat, or something to that effect. Asking her on a date's probably a better route, usually beats monologues as far as effectiveness goes.

Thanks for stating the obvious, Jofers, I think I already established those facts. Maybe you haven't ever been in this situation, but it hurts, ok?

So do you want me to hug you, tell you everything's going to be all right and then read you a bedtime story? I told you what to do next time, it's damned good advice for you. So if you're going to tell me "I know, but pity me" it's clear it needs to be pounded in your head. Being overemotional is what got you rejected in the first place (other than the obvious fact that SHE' SEEING SOMEONE), and the more you sit here and tell me "it hurts" the less I'm going to feel sorry for you. "Deal with it" is the only advice for this situation. If you want a reminder why, remember that halfway around the world children are starving to death and you're telling people how miserable you are over a crush.

I'm not going to bother you with repeating myself after this.

Well, you just did.

Quote:remember that halfway around the world children are starving to death and you're telling people how miserable you are over a crush.

Doesn't mean we have to be like them, now does it?

Anyways, like I told ya before Nova...it's just how life is. After awhile, you learn to deal with the situation and you're able to move on. That which doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. While Jofers is technically correct, a little tact is probably in order here. Basically...this is all a part of life, and of growing up. You just gotta learn to move on and find something better in life. If a woman says "you deserve better than me", she's right anyways...you deserve better than a woman who not only doesn't want you in that way, but is either (1) completely dishonest about her reasons or (2) has too low of self-confidence to be with someone of your calibre. In any event, she's not the one you want, so just let her go.

Jofers, don't be an asswipe.

Nova: Rejection happens sooner or later; you just got it sooner. There's no "magic" advice we can give you, you just have to keep going. Time will heal the wounds.

Yeah, I know, guys, it's just the first time it's happened and I was confused... I am encouraged by your words though.... thanks.

It's harsh, but it's true. The best thing you can do is ... move on. I know it hurts, it has happened to me a lot of times. But trust me... avoid her and after a while you'll be happy again. At this moment, it looks like if you are not gonna find someone else who you're gonna like appart from her, but it will happen. Trust me.

I am not telling you to break your relationship with her (friendship, I mean) completely, but to give you a time to clean up your mind. Then you can be friends.

*sigh* Posting here and making sense was a mistake, but I gots to reply to Plasma: I don't want to be an asswipe. I hate being an asswipe. In fact, being an asswipe is completely contrary to my nature, I like to be nice and kid and feel good. But this is important, really important, and someone needs to be an asswipe. I'm being an asswipe because he's gotta learn how to deal with his own problems, and dumping emotions on people makes them uncomfortable. I'd like him to like me afterwords, but I'm willing accept him thinking I'm an asswipe because otherwise he might pull the same old crap over and over again.

It's your life, Nova. But if you want to know what "I think" which is what you asked for, it's that you should meet a girl you don't know, talk to her, find a common ground and then ask her what she's doing next weekend. And if you get rejected, realize it's what you do, and not who you are that is the reason for this. If you meet new people, and are willing to take the good with the bad, you will find what you're looking for. Or... you can keep on doing the same thing to get the same results, and blame it on being a "nerd" or whatever excuse. I've seen it, on this very board, many times before. Hell, I've done it, looking for attention by spilling my guts, I'm speaking from experience. It's all up to you, That's the stone cold truth.

I hope that clarifies things, ladies, I think the kid gets it already, so I'm going to site on the couch now, wear sweatpants, eat bon-bons and watch Dr. Phil recorded on my Tivo until the early hours of the morning while I cry and hold a pillow close to me.