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man, i jus gotta get this out..... i havent coded for more than 10 - 15 minutes in the last 2 weeks... i just cant get tthat motiviation started, my relatioinship jus keeps gettinng worse and worse..... aaarg! i was stupiid to evere meet her! now i'm paying the price

i remember when i was young...i liked to mess w/ my computer, and play games and stuff.... my grandparents didnt feel the same way, they thought i t was a waste of time, so from the time i got home from school, to the time they got off work, i was playing, then i'd stop when i knew they'd be home i n minutes, cause i knew that if i was still doing that... i'd get in trouble, and there'd be a screamign match, and just a bunch of unhappyness overall

now i have a similar siituatioin to that w/ my girlfriend, she doesent like how much time i spend on the computer. The problem here is that if i'm nont on my computer, she just takes advantage to yell at me and blame all our problems on me, and just recently ii think she's cheating on me. I'll explane

when we first started dating (about 5 years ago) she lived w/ her parents.....when i told her i loved her, to keep her parents from being upset she'd say "me to". but that was only when her parents were right there, ... ok, lets fast forward back to now... w/in the last 2 months she's been hangin out w/ some guy named David, they goto t he book store together, they goto the mall, they work together, and just before she goes to sleep, she calls him, and they talk a biit before she goes to bed...well, just the othter day, she was talkin to Daviid, and i herd him say something, sorta sounded like blah blah blah (iit was in the fashion, and timing that would suggest that he said "i love you' and i could here a little, and thats what it sounded like) and she replyed "me to" aaarg

she gets home late, w/out an explanation of why, and the worst of all, she's becoming extremely hostile....

to top things off, i loaned my friend my car for a day, and he crashed it into a house..... i didnt have insurance, he was supposed to just be gettinng something, and bam, crashed into a house, so i went to court, got 620.00 in fines, for nont having insurance, and i'm on probation for 1 year

overall things are gettitng pretty rough... so i just cant manage to code, i cant hold my concentration, i cant seem to find anything thatt helps, while i'm at home that is.... when i'm not at that place, i can code, hohld my concentration.... i dont know what to do aboutwhen i'm at hohme, its just getting to be to insane, i can code when i'm at work, even though theres a lot of stress there, its nothingn like at the house

anybody have any suggestions?

I can relate to what you're going through..
But i dont have any suggestions..

Situations are never the same for everyone, and people feel differently about different things..

Just do what feels right and most of the time it works out quite nicely

Ditch the girl, she's not worth it. :*(

I hope you get throught it fine.

don't be concerned about not being able to code, get your reallife on track again, much more important.

oh and what rel said, ditch that girl but tell her what you think first :p

Are you going to let this B&$#H ruin you? Tell her what you think. If you think she is cheating, ask her what it was all about. Denial and hostility without cause is generally a way to hide the truth. My guess is your suspisions are correct.

As for your car, regardless of the fact that you didn't have insurance and have to pay fines (this is your fault, not the driver's), ask the driver to cough up the money to replace/repair the vehicle. I'm guessing the owners of the house have insurance, so they may be covered.

Forget about your online life if you need to, you have to sort out reality. Ditch her. After 5 years, it can be very painful for you, as it is probably very hard for her to say the same also. It was when my ex of 4 years did the same thing to me...

>anarky

Here is my opinion on your situation:

Your girlfriend does not enjoy spending time with you. It is clear that she does no longer wish to be your girlfriend, but instead someone else's girlfriend.

I strongly suggest breaking it off completely with this girl, if she is nothing but hostile towards you and always talking to someone else. It is clear she wants to be with him.

Secondly, it was stupid of your friend to crash into a house. It was not so stupid for you to let him drive it to make a quick trip to the market. Just unfortunate and back luck. I suggest you either demand that he pay the entire $620.00 or you kick his ass. Either way, you will feel almost entirely better afterwards. If this were my situation, I'd probably do both... demand the money, and after you get it, kick his ass. =) But obviously the entire reason you owe the money is because of him. Well not entirely... you did not purchase car insurance (in most states that is illegal). So maybe he only owes you $619.00

Listen to your instincts. If they tell you that she's playing tictactoe then she is. No one needs that kind of crap in their life. And definately make your friend pay the fine.

Exactly. Even if it hurts, it's better that you find out what's happening with that girl. Face her. Let her tell you. If she doesn't love you, it's stupid to keep on pretending. It's worse for you. If she doesn't break up with you just 'cause she doesn't want to hurt you, tell her that you are more damaged with this false life.

Truth hurts a lot, but just a couple of days. A constant lie will hurt less, but forever.

Can she code?



>_>



Well if she just suddenly started have this problem with you being on the computer to much then I think she doesn't want you anymore. But if you increased your time on the computer by a ton then that might be different.


*takes note never to lend his car to anyone.. assuming he gets a car... which he doesn't really care for..*

Well good luck