girl troubles

[xteraco]

hi all, i'm having some troulbe... here goes

i met this girl, and i realy like her, but i have a girlfriend, so... the girl i really like, i cant really "date" her... but i want to at least make friends w/ her cause she's into programming, and i think that we could maybe make a nice team

i want to ask her out to a cup of coffee at starbucks, but i dont want her to think i'm trying to "get with her" as in, i'm not trying to date her... what should i do!?

i was thinking, i could jsut tell her i'm not interested in a relationship i just wanna be friends, i dont know, what do you guys think?

[Rattrapmax6]

As far as I can say, you're treading in deadly waters so-to-speak. Your current gf is the one you should really consult since she is the one that could realy get upset over the whole deal. Then, over all, any slight missunderstandings in any situation could cause trouble btween you and your current gf.

Truefully answer this: Would you like her hanging out with another guy for any reason?

[xteraco]

well, amanda (current gf) does hang out w/ guys, and i dont really care

i did talk to amanda about making friends w/ this other girl.. and she doesent seem to concerned, i'm just trying to find a way to make friends w/ this other girl w/out sending out the "wrong signals"

[TheDarkJay]

i'm the worst person to ask so don't listen to this:

Ask her for help in something. She programs, how many people do you personally know that program? Why not say your stuck at something, make it something she would know and you might not know. then she would feel superior and gladly be your friend.

Woman like to be superior, even though they usually ain't. *See's Z!re staring with angry eyes* um, i meant to say woman need proof that they are superior, which they are... hifty: did she believe me?

[xteraco]

lol

[Rattrapmax6]

Woman like to be superior, even though they usually ain't. *See's Z!re staring with angry eyes* um, i meant to say woman need proof that they are superior, which they are... hifty: did she believe me?

Oh well, DarkJay, it was really nice knowing ya.... :normal: .... Pitty it came to this....








:rotfl:

[Oz]

Being a natural babe magnet, this is what i suggest:
grab coffee with her, and your girlfriend...have her bring a friend, too.

that way, she knows you're dating, and you know if she is, and it definately wouldn't be a "I wanna get to you" sort of situation.

it does sound a little utopian, but i've done it before, and it worked "swell"

oz~

[Sumo Jo]

Ask if she'd like to hang with you and give no signals to her that you are interested in dating her. Even if it would mean mentioning your girlfriend during a topic. Bringing her and your girlfriend just makes it weird for her.

[Moneo]

To paraphrase an old saying:

Familiarity breeds attempt. :wink:

Like Ratt said, "you're treading in deadly waters ."
Sooner or later you're going to jump on this "friend's" bones.
*****

[whitetiger0990]

If you feel secure enough in your relationship with your girlfriend now. You should be able to hang out with the girl and not have a fear.

If the girl knows that you have a good relationship with your girlfriend she shouldn't try to take that away from you.




I believe. Don't take my word.