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how do you cut yourself with a key?

I don't know. He takes the serraided edge and digs it into his skin then pulls. he's got the scars to prove it

You press hard... with the jagged side... it hurts like hell and leaves nice cuts...

Not directly lethal, it's hard to cut that deep with it. But still.


And is it just me who think Seph did wrong by hitting Nikki?

It doesent really matter what she has done, I don't see him telling use she attacked him, hit him.

Even if Nikki is a bitch, and verbaly abused him, he has no right hitting her.

And this is not a boy hitting girl issue, this is how I see all beatings.
There is never any need to hit anyone, "what if I'm cornered by 2 huge dudes with knifes then, huh?" Well, if Seph thinks of Nikki as 2 huge dudes with kifes then I think he needs some help.

Yes, I think it was wrong that he hit her, as it would be wrong for anyone to hit anyone else. However, it was a mistake, as he realized later on, and as far as I can see, it wasnt a pattern of abuse. It was a mistake he made when he was pushed over the edge. No one here has ever been pushed over the edge so much that you snap, disconnect or lose your bearing on reality? No matter how much control someone has, they can lose it with enough stress and pressure. And between two 18 year olds (i'm assuming Nikki's 18 too), basically two kids trying to raise another kid and at the same time trying to deal with each other, it takes less pressure and stress in order to escalate to that level.

If he is as unstable as you make him out to be, why havent you left him yet? Do you think youre going to be able to change him? Not likely, no one changes because someone else wants them to. Everyone must change themselves. As for counselling, the state offers free counselling for women going thru the situation you are going thru. In fact, there are more programs for women than men, just look in your phone book.

Also as I said before, you could have told the police what happened, and say that you dont want him to go to jail, but to seek counselling. If judges see both are trying to make an effort, they can make concessions for this purpose, that is, if you are afraid of him and fear for yourself and your child, and if he is treating you that bad.

Nikki, why do you keep calling Danny as "Seph's son"? Isnt he *your* son as well? and if he keeps on hurting you over and over why dont you just leave? He has to seek professional help and so should you.

This whole situation is just BS and the only reason it keeps getting posted in is because somebody wants attention and a pity party. So I'm not posting anything else in this dead topic. You all know my opinions on the subject and they are unchanged because of personal experience...something most people here do not have on this subject to the extent that I have.

This is Nikki. Today Seph and I made up. We decided we were still going to be apart until we both got some counciling. So in the spirit of makeing things better we decided to "make love". Well half way through it he told me to close my eyes because seeing my eyes made him feel guilty. I peeked and saw him looking at pictures on the wall of his sisters friends then looking at my body and avoiding my face. I confronted him about it and he said that he was really messed up in the head. Then I told him to get off of me. As I left the room he stood up and said that I shouldnt leave that I would be sorry and that he needed me to hold him. I told him that I was going to bed and then started to sob. Hopefully this will make some of you realize that I am not insaine. He wants my support after he hurts me.

...I really don't want to say this but...

You two are pretty screwed up...

I don't get why you two just sperate (maybe still be friends or something) and get some help, you ppl just need to start all over.

This is kindof like a Windows computer... You get the blue screen of death and have to restart... if you restart it right it runs nice but if you restart it wrong, or at the wrong time windows will be very screwed up... (i'm sorry to compare this with a computer, but if you think of it for a bit you'll see how it fights in). So try to "restart" yourselves so you two can live a nice and happy life someday.

...if I offended you two or anyone else in anyway i'm sorry, but i'm just saying what I think...

If you want to be apart and make things better, having sex isnt exactly the way to go. Are you trying to get pregnant again? Not very smart.

I am on the shot so I can't get pregnant.